At times, life may seem to be a daunting task. There is so much to do, so much to think about, so much to worry about. 

Sometimes life seems overwhelming. Some people feel frustrated by the constant rushing and busy schedules. Some cannot tolerate the endless groaning of their endless thoughts. Others, however, are unable to cope with their feelings of inadequacy or self-doubt. They all try different approaches, which may be meditation or consciousness that can be tested, but that is often not enough to combat the feeling.

Let us examine some of the causes of such feelings, first of all, in order to learn the possible tools and solutions.

There are so many things to do: most of us have grown up in societies where competition and success are very important and that is the true measure of our worth. As a result, we feel compelled to always aim for bigger, higher goals. Beauty is not enough, as beauty and greatness are the only acceptable standards. This kind of belief, inherited from the environment, motivates us to want more, to do more, to expect more of ourselves. There is a whole world of impression ahead of us and it requires us to devote most of our time to do things that will bring us closer to our goal and that any free time we get, we also use to pursue our ongoing development.

Too many thoughts: waking upstarts for most people as a way of daydreaming. Already in childhood, some people spend a lot of time letting themselves get lost in their thoughts and distractions. What quickly becomes a habit is almost accompanied by a negative prediction of that future, as we learn to worry about what might or might not happen. Very few people talk about things that are positive and exciting; most do things that are negative, stressful, or painful. Constantly thinking about negative aspects quickly becomes a way of life and beginners find it difficult to change the pattern. Any type of leak, whether it focuses on the past or the future, produces certain chemicals and emotions that our brain quickly absorbs. Lack of them can cause symptoms such as withdrawal and result in a permanent need for regeneration. Therefore, the rumination persists, grows, and never ends.

Life in the past: when people process, they tend to do so focusing on two different situations, and only the two: the past or the future. In the past, they tried to understand something that made them feel guilty, sad, or hurt. The inability to change anything that happens often overwhelms them and they feel powerless.

Life in the future: when in the future, people try to prepare themselves to face something that scares them, they always ask themselves, 'what if ...?' The more time they spend in those situations, the more they need to come back. People who spend so much time in the future in their minds are overwhelmed by the variety of difficulties and obstacles they may face and the growing belief in their failure to succeed.

Feeling inadequate or insecure: Many people suffer from low self-esteem or low self-esteem as a result of weak beliefs and beliefs. When a person has strong beliefs, there is no self-doubt. It arises from uncertainty and doubt. Those who feel that they are not good enough or are not good enough often find it difficult to cope with the circumstances and the reality around them, not because it presents them with too many challenges but because they think they do not know or do not know enough. Everything becomes complicated and one problem piles up on the next until people feel completely frustrated.

So, what can be done?

1-First, take a deep breath. Nothing will change if you can stop for a moment and focus on the work you have already done. This applies to all of the above factors: the more anxious you are, the more anxious you will be and the less likely you are to deal with your problems. When you need to overcome them, you are tired.

2-Second, focus on HERE and NOW. Most of the time you spend in the past or in the future a little time to focus on your problem;

the little power you have when you finally decide to face the situation in front of you;

when you are not fully aware of the realities around you and the little resources you can see and find; and

little by little you learn about future, similar situations.

Another important tool that should be used is to really stop whatever you are doing and do the opposite or something completely different. For example, if you are sitting and suddenly notice that you are joking or obsessed with your mind, get up and start moving. Or, when you go, just sit down anywhere or start dancing. Changing our actions forces us to be here and now.

3-Third, apply the Kaizen procedure. We often feel frustrated, as discussed above, when there is so much on our plate. We have important goals that we must achieve and those that we feel are unattainable. Kaizen means lowering our goals to be manageable steps and taking those steps, one by one. So, if for example, you need to exercise because the doctor told you that running or cycling for an hour every day may sound like an impossible task. Using this Japanese method, you will start by doing it in just 5 minutes on the first day and celebrate gaining that little milestone. On the second day, you would do just 10 minutes, then celebrate, and so on until you reach the 60 minutes you want. Celebrating small steps is an important part of the process because it helps us to change our beliefs and improve our self-confidence.

4- Fourth, identify and question the beliefs that cause you to doubt. To do this, I often recommend using a "self-talk diary," a notebook (or recording program) in which we record any negative or critical speech we find ourselves using. All of these messages to us conceal our deepest beliefs. An example would be to tell yourself ... 'I will not get a promotion because no one likes me,' which is another way to tell yourself that you are unloved or unworthy. Identify all the labels you give yourself to understand why your confidence is so low. Those are the messages you always tell yourself. Are you surprised you feel insecure? Do this for at least a few weeks.

 Once you have identified your beliefs (through those labels and messages), ask them if they empower you or limit you and if you wish to keep them. If you decide to let go, you will need to find a replacement, because no belief can be nullified. To find a replacement, look at the previous cancellation message and start repeating yourself. There is one important rule here: the new message cannot contradict the previous one, because your brain just can't believe it. It needs to be the one that cancels the little, opens the way for you. Using the same pattern as before, you may have been telling yourself that you are not popular. Your new message could be something like, "some people like me," or "I sometimes like myself," or even, "there's a lot for me to like." Once you have done it often enough, you may begin to feel that it is achievable. At that moment, celebrate the feeling. The more you do this, the easier it will be for you to start to accept the new beliefs and replace them with the old ones. Warning: ask and change only one belief at a time and do not start with the second until you work on the first one for at least two weeks. Asking too many questions at once can lead to problems.

5- Fifth, use Tool 4 to ask yourself questions about your beliefs about competition and success. What do you believe about them? What do you expect? What messages do you give yourself? Do they give you power or limitations? Do you want to keep them?

Feeling frustrated is very common and limited. Use this information to begin understanding and managing the underlying causes of your emotions and things will begin to change quickly for you. You have the power to change the way you describe your circumstances and your reality. Start letting go of those restrictions and take better control of your life.