How To Set And Achieve Goals

Why Your Goals Will Fail, and What You Can Do About It

The key to success in all things comes down to creating productive habits.

If you are like most people, each year you bring another wish for the New Year's resolution, and you may be clinging to it so far this year. Good for you! In fact, however, you will fail.

When do you say you should be in a good mood or cry about the need for quality extra time with family and friends? The fact is that, without the most sincere commitment, decisions do not work. We make well-intentioned goals, with the false belief that we have no commitment and motivation; all we need is a good kick to keep it going. This would not be far from the truth, so please stop trying to be assertive.

There are better ways to achieve your full potential, with a little headache. First of all, realize that the key to success in all things lies in creating productive habits. Behaviour is defined as behavior that occurs almost automatically. I define “productive habits” as behaviors that allow you to get what you want automatically, without actually trying. But productive habits do not just come out of the air. They are formed by combining a series of individual behaviors, such as a series of pearls. These individual behaviors, over time, change our daily actions and change our lives. Productive habits enable us to reach our full potential, make us the people we want to be, and ultimately give us the life we ​​want.

Step 1: Have No Goals

You're really confused now, aren't you? Everything you learn about getting what you want in life focuses on the importance of setting goals. You probably heard that you should always start with the final goals first. I beg to differ.

Now I'm not saying that setting goals don't work. I say it only works in certain situations. In cases where someone asks you to produce a product, such as at work, goals are important. The goals are also helpful when you are training to be an expert. However, most of us do not shoot to become world-class experts. You probably do not compete with others in the race, but you do.

See if any of these terms apply:

"I'm going to lose 20 pounds in the summer."

"I will run a marathon."

"I don't eat carbs for a whole month."

How did these work for you? Do any of these goals improve your life over time? Well, I never thought of that. That is because these kinds of goals do not set out what is really important, namely, living a happy life.

I call these types of goals "BUT Terms" because they are Big, Unpleasant, and Time boxed. These kinds of goals add stress to your life and people are biologically organized to avoid things that hurt them. If your goals are not good, you will quit. So, when creating productive habits, remember: hard work does not work, so drop goals.

Instead, forget the ending and start the journey. Your journey should be fun, endless, and easy. It is on a journey where your productive habits will be built. The trip sounds like this:

"I want to develop a love of exercise."

“I want to learn to enjoy building wealth.”

You will never complete this journey and that is the point. It is only with consistent practice that you will develop habits and achieve your potential. What you do on the trip is not so important; you will see that as you go. The important thing is to continue the journey without the pressure of finishing a certain goal. But how can you make sure that you continue your journey?

Step 2: Get Your MEA

Now that you know which journey to start, your MEAL will help guide you along the way. Your MEA is yours:




MEA is ethical, simple, minimal and a little fun. It's so easy, so small, and fun enough, that you can see yourself doing it for the rest of your life. For example, suppose you are on a journey to "enjoy improving your dental health." If you do not open it, you may decide that the floss can help you on your journey. But instead of saying, "I'll blink every night" you can make MEA to "mix one tooth." This simple, minimal, and less satisfying behavior is all you need to get started.

Another way to know if you have received your MEA is to try what I call a “duh test”. Stand in front of a mirror and wonder if you can do your MEA. Why did you say, "Well then I can, duh?" You have to feel that behavior is easy with humor. If so, you have received your MEA. But when you wrap up, doubt, or doubt, and turn back, your behavior is very difficult.

MEAs help you practice small habits by making sure you start your journey with the easiest behaviors possible. As the trunk of a tree grows, the habits are formed in layers. Making small behaviors into practice allows you to add the following, the most complex, and the most challenging behaviors. Over time, these ongoing trends build up in the transformation that defines life.

Step 3: Follow through

Keeping a record of your MEAs is very important for two reasons. First, it reminds you of the new habits you are developing, giving you a checklist of things to work on. Second, it provides an important jolt for good reinforcement that your brain needs to keep up with. By simply checking the box you have made for your MEA, you put strong straps on your head to reinforce the new behavior.

Tracking is easy, and there are new technologies that make it even easier. My favorite tracking app is called Date One. The app provides an easy-to-use interface to list your MEAs and track the ones you complete. Yes, you can accomplish the same thing with a spreadsheet, a wall calendar, or a piece of paper, but I like the feeling of

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